Ad Meah Esrim–Towards 120 Years and Beyond

So Moses lived to be 120 years old—and the blessing on someone’s birthday is “May you live to be 120. Ad meah esrim” Essentially, may you be like Moses. So today we are having a big birthday party, an anniversary. 120 years. Kol hakavod!

It has been fun for me to hear the stories. Blossom talking about having the first aliyah as a woman. The stories of sneaking out to Prince’s for nickel ice cream cones. Stories about the last Bar Mitzvah on Villa Street and the first one in this building. Any number of stories of the basketball court and the showers in the basement. Stories of Friday Night Live and piano music with Mrs. Greenfield. Stories of dinner dances and _________. Stores of the Jewish Community Chest. I love this kind of history and I love that we are surrounded by it with the display on loan from the Elgin Historical Society.

120 years is a long time for a congregation, especially a Midwestern congregation. While my ancestors helped found KAM in 1847 and Simon’s helped with Congregation Sinai, 120 years is still a rarity. Anywhere in the country. It is truly a milestone. B’nai Shalom in Quincy was founded over a 130 years ago and has the oldest synagogue building in Illinois in continual use. The Orthodox congregation on Golf Road in Skokie was founded in 1867 and lists itself as the oldest Orthodox congregation in the Midwest. And then there is us. That’s it.

We record lots of ages in the Torah—some of them seem radically improbable. Who really lives to be 969 years old like Methuselah? Or 900 like Adam or 500? Did Sarah really have a baby at 90? Even she laughed at that idea to which God said nothing was impossible for God.

And the Bible does mention the celebration of birthdays. Isaac was weaned on his third birthday and Ahrbaham made a feast. The Pharaoh that Joseph served under celebrated his birthday and that was an auspicious day. One of Ahashvarous’s parties in the book of Esther was rumored to be his birthday.

We are taught to number our days. What does it mean to count, to number our days?

I think it means that we should strive to do something worthwhile. There is a line in Gates of Repentance that has always resonated with me, “Merely to have survived is not an index of excellence.” It gets me every year and brings me up short. So what are we supposed to do? I think we need to thrive.

What does it mean to thrive?

We are in the section of the Torah where we are wandering in the desert. Inevitably the Israelites are not happy. They grumble. Almost constantly. They don’t want to walk through the mud when the Sea of Reeds miraculous parted. They worry that there is not enough water. They don’t like the taste of manna—it’s boring. They want to go back to Egypt where at least they have onions to flavor their food. They still have a slave mentality. This is not unlike prisoners who sometimes commit another crime just so they can go back to jail where even though it isn’t pleasant they have three square meals a day and heat. Last week we read how the Israelites begged Moses to go up the mountain for them. They were afraid. Soon we will read about the Golden Calf. Again, the Israelites were afraid , this time that Moses wasn’t coming back. It took a full generation for the Israelites to be ready to enter the promise land. But that generation was the one that got to experience God’s presence directly. As Mekhita taught, “Even a lowly bondswoman saw God” unlike Isaiah and Ezekiel who only had visions of God. This very generation set up our ability to be Jews today. By having the courage to leave Egypt (not everyone did), by being like Miriam and taking their timbrels with them so that they could worship and celebrate, by having the courage to walk through the water like Nachson, by sticking with it, even when they were scared and grumbling.

For me that it is what is about. We need not just to survive. We need to thrive. That is what our ancestors who founded this very shul wanted. They wanted us as Jews to thrive in the Fox River Valley. They wanted us to be proud of our heritage and their legacy. They gave us a lasting gift.

And it would be nice if along the way we did it with a little less grumbling. We can’t go back in time. We can only move forward. It is good to celebrate that we survived. That we are amongst the oldest Jewish congregations in Illinois. But what is so critical to our success, our ability to thrive is to plan for our future. It is about how we take our passion for Judaism, for this very synagogue, for this building and pass it down to the next generation so that they share our enthusiasm and passion. The next generation will be different than ours. That happens every generation. They will make Judaism their own and build on what we leave them. They may elect to do services online, do more with social media, learn Hebrew remotely. They are already doing some of that. They may prefer Matisyahu to Lewandowski or Debbie Friedman or Jeff Klepper. Synagogues may not look like this building at all and I am not sure we can imagine what it will be like. However, I think that Jews will want to continue to be engaged and involved on their terms, for spirituality, for study and for community. That is what a synagogue, a temple, a shul, our home is all about.
There is a story about Reb Zusya, a great Hasidic leader. He was worried about the question he would be asked by the angels at the end of his life. He would not be asked, “Why weren’t you a Moses, leading your people out of slavery. And the angels will not ask, “Why weren’t you a Joshua, leading your people into the promised land.” His followers were puzzled. What will they ask you? Zusya answered, “They will say to me, Zusya, why weren’t you Zusya.”
Today is Shabbat Shekalim, the day when Israel took a census, when G-d asked the Israelites to raise their heads, literally take a head count. It is essentially a tax holiday. Every adult, those 20 years old, of military age, Israelite had to pay a half shekel. The text is clear, the rich shall not pay more nor the poor shall not pay less. There are a couple of interesting things to point out here—the word, v’natnu is a palindrome, spelled the same way backwards and forwards. The Vilna Gaon teaches that charity is a two way street, those give many have to receive. That seems like the classic “What goes around comes around.” But there is something more here.

While Eitz Hayyim translates it as “each shall pay,” the verb is closer to “And they shall give.” This is an obligation, but it is also a gift.

Each of us have gifts that we bring to the shul. Those gifts are what make this place a holy place.

These are the gifts that we bring 
that we may build a holy place.

This is the spirit that we bring that we may build a holy place.

We will bring all the goodness 
that comes from our hearts

And the spirit of God will dwell within…..
These are the colours of our dreams 
we bring to make a holy place.

This is the weaving of our lives 
we bring to make a holy place.

We will bring all the goodness
 that comes from our hearts

And the spirit of love will dwell within…..
These are the prayers that we bring 
that we may make a holy place.

These are the visions that we seek
 that we may build this holy place.

Let our promise forever be strong,

let our souls rise together in song,

that the spirit of God 
and the spirit of love,
 Shechinah, 
will dwell within.

The Rabbinical Assembly’s Rabbi’s Manual has a special bracha for a special anniversary. While it was designed for a wedding anniversary, it is appropriate here. The Israelites formed a covenant with God and with each other. A marriage is a covenantal relationship, a relationship based in love, in mutual respect, in trust. Building a synagogue is much like the Israelites who stood together at Sinai. Building a synagogue is a lot like entering a marriage. So like those who have been married for 25 or 50 years we say,
“I will betroth you to Me forever. I will betroth you to Me with righteousness, with justice, with compassion. I will betroth you to Me with faithfulness, and you shall love Adonai.” Paraphrasing, 120 years ago, in the presence of your families and friends, you consecrated this community. Your lives together, your sharing of joys and sorrows, your raising families together, and your continuing devotion to each other, nurturing and expanding upon the promise our ancestors made to one another 120 years ago.” (page c-68). Every week we read as part of the Torah service the blessing for our community and for our leaders. “May the blessings of heaven—kindness and compassion, long life, ample sustenance, well-being, and healthy children devoted to Torah—be granted to all members of this congregation. May the Sovereign of the universe, bless you, adding to your days and your years. May you be spared all distress and disease. May our Protector in heaven be your help at all times…May God who blessed our ancestors, Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, Sarah, Rebecca, Rachel and Leah and the very ones who founded this synagogue, bless this entire congregation, together with all holy congregations…along with those who unite to establish synagogues for prayer and those who enter them to pray and those who five funds for heat and light and wine for Kiddush and havdalah…May God bless them by making all their worthy endeavors prosper…And let us say, Amen.” Siddur Sim Shalom, page 148) This is about how to thrive.

Our work is not yet done. Pirke Avot teaches, “Lo Alecha Hamlacha ligmor, Ours is not the finish the task, neither are we free to ignore it.” So it is time to celebrate. And time to raise your heads, stand up and be counted. But it is also time to pass down what we love to the next generation, lador vador, from one generation to the next. We are not alone in this. God makes a promise in the beginning of this week’s parsha. “I am sending an angel before you to guard you on the way and to bring you to the place that I have made ready…I will let you enjoy the full count of your days.” Then we will truly thrive into the next generation and beyond. Ad meah esrim.