Mitzvah Goreret Mitzvah Building Good Habits One Mitzvah at a Time

Mitzvah goreret mitzvah, goreret mitzvah, avarah goreret avarahLhiyot tzadkize tov. One mitzvah leads to another. One sin leads to another. To be rigtheous is to be good. This week’s portion is all about mitzvot, commandments. Sometimes mitzvah is translated as good deed. I used to bristle at that but in fact that is the Yiddish translation. Today’s portion has 74 of the 613 commandments. They are a moral compass. 

Often, I hear that Judaism is hard. It is filled with Thou Shall Nots and no one wants to be told what to do. I understand that. But as I often say about the prayers, Ahava Rabbah and Ahavat Olam, G-d is like a loving parent setting limits for us.  

 In fact, of the 613 commandments, there are 365 negative ones and 248 positive ones corresponding to the number of the bones in the body—at least according to the Talmud (Makot 23a and b) 

A commandment is more than a suggestion, or a recommendation. It is something we are required to do, a sacred obligation. It has the force of law. We could argue about who is doing the commanding but for now let’s just agree that the text tells us that it is G-d. 

Today, we are not obligated to all 613 of them. Many of them have to do with the sacrificial system in the Holy Temple in Jerusalem. So really there are only 77 positive and 194 negative commandments that can be observed today, of which there are 26 commandments that apply only in the land of Israel.  

This week’s portion, with its list of seemingly disconnected ideas of how to be good, has led to a whole discipline within Judaism.  Ta’amei Hamitzvot 

The birth of this discipline came from Ramban, with an n, also known as Nachmanidies, on the commentary on one of these very verses today: 

IF A BIRD’S NEST CHANCE TO BE BEFORE THEE. This also is an explanatory commandment, of the prohibition Ye shall not kill it [the dam] and its young both in one day, because the reason for both [commandments] is that we should not have a cruel heart and be discompassionate, or it may be that Scripture does not permit us to destroy a species altogether, although it  permits slaughter [for food] within that group. Now, he who kills the dam and the young in one day or takes them when they are free to fly [it is regarded] as though he cut off that species. 

Note, Ramban has no problem giving two different explanations for the prohibition on taking the mother together with her chicks. Remember how I often say two Jews three opinions and I have all three.. Ramban is trying to answer the question, “What is G-d’s purpose in giving us this mitzvah?”  

There is a long discussion in Ramban about the reasons for this commandment, 

https://www.etzion.org.il/en/philosophy/great-thinkers/ramban/taamei-hamitzvot-reasons-commandments    

In fact, in that argument, all commandments that could be summed up in just as G-d is merciful and compassionate, you too should be merciful and compassionate. These are of course part of the 13 Attributes of the Divine, so central to how we approach the teshuva of the High Holy Days. Just as G-d is merciful and compassionate, full of lovingkindness, we too should emulate G-d. We should be like G-d. We should be menschen. Hillel said in Pirke Avot “In a place where there are no men, strive to be a man, a mensch.” L’hiyot tzadkize tov. 

But it is not easy to be righteous, to be a good person, to be a mensch. So these commandments come as a way to build good habits. One commandment, one good deed leads to another and another and another. There is a science behind habit building. Programs like Weight Watchers and Noom understand that.  

 
We used to say that it took 60 days to create a habit. Or perhaps you heard it takes 21 days. But if we understand the emerging science correctly, it may take even less time.  

Let’s dig in. The best way to change an existing habit is to create a new one to replace it. That’s why if you smoke, experts will recommend that you find something else to do with your hands—or they recommend gum chewing to replace the sensation of smoking.  

Psychology Today used an example of coming home at the end of the workday, grapping a soda (OK here in Illinois it would be a pop), sitting on the couch and turning on the TV. Soon a hour has gone by and you haven’t gotten any exercise or started dinner.  

But what if you create a new habit? What if you interrupt the stimulus/response cycle and replace the current response with a different response? I think that is part of what the whole High Holy Day preparation cycle is about. What are the things you want to change for the New Year about your own behavior. 

So, continuing with our example from Psychology Today: 

The current stimulus is walk in the door. It results in the response, grab pop, turn on TV and sit on the couch. Sitting on the couch is what I’m doing as I write this.  

So to change this, we need to decide what we want to replace the stimulus with. Maybe, if you want to go for a walk before you get home, put your walking shoes and a change of clothes right by the door to remind you. Then, for a few days, “purposefully and consciously” as Psychology Today said, that’s our kavanah, intention, grab the clothes and the shoes, change and go right out the door before even sitting down! 

Withing seven days you will have built in going for a walk before sitting down.  

Seven days, just seven days. We are back to creation. You have created a new habit. These mitzvot, the very ones that when we stood at Sinai we all said we will do and we will hear, even if we don’t always understand the whys, are here to help us create good habits, to help us be like G-d, merciful and compassionate. 

Table Topics: 

  1. What is a commandment and who is doing the commanding? 

  2. What are the purposes of the commandments? 

  3. What habit would you like to change? 

  4. Are any of the commandments more important to you than others? Why or why not? Make a list of those that are.  

Lab at Home: 

For the next seven days, choose a habit that you would like to change. Perhaps it is the example of going for a walk. Or not going through a fast food drive throughOr doing your homework before playing video games. Follow these steps: 

  1.  
    Identify what behavior you want to change. 

  2. Identify the stimulus that creates your behavior 

  3. Identify the response. 

  4. Identify a substitute. 

  5. Try for seven days. 

  6. Record in a log and share with us! Did it make a difference? Is the new habit established? 

Song: 

Act of Kindness: 

Call up a friend and go for a walk. Perhaps that friend is also trying to build a new habit.  

Re’ah 5781: Choose Blessing Every Day

Still playing catch-up. But here is Re’ah. It is based on a recent experience I had learning of a family that chose organ donation.

“Ani l’dodi v’dodi…I am my Beloved and my beloved is mine.” These words from Song of Songs, are chanted at many weddings. Is also the acronym for the month of Elul that starts tonight. Tonight we celebrate, yes celebrate Rosh Hodesh Elul—just 40 days to Yom Kippur. As the midrash teaches, it was on Rosh Hodesh Elul that Moses began his journey back up Mount Sinai to receive the second set of tablets of the 10 commandments.  

G-d was willing to give Moses, and the people of Israel a second chance.  

Yes, even after the sin of the Golden Calf, G-d will take us back in love. G-d will go with us and give us rest. So very needed in these complicated times.  

But what happened to the first set of tablets?  

According to Torah, the first set was inscribed by God’s finger – whereas the second were chiseled out by Moses and rewritten by God – but it doesn’t tell us what happened to shards. One Talmudic tradition states the broken tablets were placed in the Holy Ark along with the second, which were intact. Another tells us: “Two Arks journeyed with Israel in the wilderness. One in which the Torah was placed, and the other in which the tablets broken by Moses were placed.” 

Estelle Frankel said in her book, Sacred Therapy, that “If the two sets of tablets represent developmental stages we go through in our spiritual and emotional development, the first tablets correspond to our youthful dreams and ideals. . . . The second tablets represent our more mature visions and dreams, which perhaps are not as lofty as our youthful visions and dreams but are more viable. . . . Gathering up the broken pieces suggests that we must salvage the essential elements of our youthful dreams and ideals and carry them forward on our journeys so that we can find a way to realize them in a more grounded fashion. For ultimately the whole and the broken live side by side in us all, as our broken dreams and shattered visions exist alongside our actual lives.” 

They are like the pieces of the glass that are shattered at a wedding, that many couples keep for placing in a mezuzah to reminds them of their dreams on their wedding day.  

Today’s Torah portion, we are told “See I set before you blessing and curse.” It implies then that we then have a choice, to choose blessing. That part seems easy. Who wouldn’t want to choose something good?  

Melissa, you have chosen Jason and Jason you have chosen Melissa as your beloved. Ani l’dodi v’dodi li. As a blessing.  We, as your congregation, are excited for you. You have dreams and goals of happiness. Visions of the way life will be in your new married status. 

There are books with titles like Finding Joy and Choosing Happiness—and there is some evidence in modern psychology that you can in fact choose happiness or at least put it as a slogan on a coffee cup or a t-shirt.  

The reality is that each of us will go through experiences that will seem like curses. Can we find the blessing in the curse? That can be really, really hard to do.  

That’s because there are a couple of challenges here. The first is to not blame G-d. While our parsha tells us explicitly that blessings and curses come from G-d, I am less sure of that. The name of Rabbi Harold Kushner’s book is When Bad Things Happen to Good People, and not why? The question is what do we do when bad things happen. 

We have a choice. We can choose how we respond to tragedy. One thing I tell people preparing for a marriage is to prepare wills and health care proxies and power of attorneys. I pray that you then don’t need them for a long, long time. As part of your advance directives, I strongly encourage people to become organ donors.  

Sometimes people are surprised. They had heard that Judaism rejects organ donation. But it is not true. Even in the Orthodox world, organ donation is now encouraged. Of course, we Jews argue about everything—even this. But here are my positions as your spiritual leader. 

It says in the Talmud that if you save one life it is as though you have saved the whole world. I actually quoted this earlier this week as it related to the vaccine clinic. Some were disappointed that so few people that night chose to be vaccinated. Let’s look at that another way. While I don’t have the final number of people vaccinated that night, you can think about it that at least 5 people’s lives may have been saved.  

For much of this past year, we have talked about the principle of pekuach nefesh, saving a life. That principle relates to organ donation too. 

While some have argued no to organ donation, because Judaism prohibits the unnecessary mutilation of the dead. However, if the mutilation is done with the purpose of saving life, the principle of Pikuach Nefesh allows it. 

Judaism encourages the quick burial of the dead and prohibits the postponement of burial, and harvesting organ may postpone burial, if it is done with the purpose of saving life, the principle of Pikuach Nefesh allows it. This applies as well for donating a body “for medical science” 

We are also prohibited from benefiting from the dead.  Although the recipient of the dead person’s organs benefits, since this was done with the purpose of saving life, the principle of Pikuach Nefesh allows it. 

Israel, in particular, in 2008 passed laws allowing organ donation passed with the full support of its Chief Rabbinate. The Halachic Organ Donor Society and other organizations like that, including Rabbi Shmuly Yanklowitz my friend and colleague who happens to be an Orthodox rabbi,  who has donated his own kidney and arranges for others to do likewise, encourages and supports organ donation. 

In my role as police chaplain, I recently learned about a family that chose, our key word, to donate the victim’s organs, after tragedy. Six people received the gift of life. I am grateful that that family in the midst of unspeakable tragedy had the courage to choose blessing. May we all be able to do likewise. See, I set before you blessing and a curse. Choose blessing. Be a blessing.  

Shoftim 5781: Seeing is Believing or Is it?

Every now and then, you write a sermon and it doesn’t “preach well” Here is what I was trying to say. You need two eyewitnesses. Eye witness testimony is unreliable. Just look at the research on the black blue dress. So in pursuing justice, and setting up fair courts, the death penalty, while permitted by Biblical law is not used in rabbinic law. Here is the full, edited sermon:

“Seeing is believing.” We’ve all heard that. But my answer is “Well, maybe.” 

Seeing places an important role in Judaism. We are told in the same chapter that we are commanded to “Love our neighbors as ourselves,” to not out a stumbling block before the blind. We are told that we cannot see G-d face to face and live and that Moses was the only one who did—and that Moses saw G-d’s backside. What does that mean? Sometimes when I am teaching kids I say that it is like the wind. You cannot see the wind and yet you know it Is there. You feel the breeze on your face. See the leaves rustling. Sometimes, like this week, you see the destructive nature of wind, and you know it was there. You witness it. 

We witness G-d’s presences by feeling G-d’s loving compassion and mercy. We emulate that by doing similarly. As Sotah tells us, just as G-d clothed Adam and Eve, we should clothe the naked. As G-d visited Abraham, we should visit the sick. As G-d fed the Israelite manna, we should feed the hungry. As G-d buried Moses, we should bury the dead. Each of these is the visible sign of G-d’s compassion. That is how we walk in G-d’s ways. It is about walking the talk, to use that business phrase.  

The Sh’ma, the proclamation that G-d is one, the watchword of our faith commands us to hear.  But there is also a command to witness. The last letter of Sh’ma, Hear is ayin (which actually means eye) and the last letter of echad, dalet, taken together these two letters, ayin dalet mean witness. 

Today’s Torah portion has lots to do with justice, tzedek, tzedek tirdof, justice, justice shall you pursue. Part of that is in creating fair, equitable courts. One thing you need is two witnesses. Male, of course. We women didn’t count.  

And as a footnote. That is still true today. As recently as 2001 and again in 2004, in a Committee on Jewish Law and Standards for the Conservative Movement, in a well researched and documented responsa went through all the halacha. https://www.rabbinicalassembly.org/sites/default/files/public/halakhah/teshuvot/19912000/geller_womenedut.pdf  

https://www.rabbinicalassembly.org/sites/default/files/public/halakhah/teshuvot/20052010/mackler_women_witnesses.pdf  

So women can be witnesses but cannot sign legal documents especially for gittin, divorce decrees.  

To this day, when I meet with wedding couples I suggest strongly that they have two, male, non-related witnessed for the ketubah signing so that there are no questions about status in case they ever want to move to Israel. It is always a painful part of pre-marriage counseling.  

And it is important for another reason. In the case of an agunah, a chained woman, In the case of a classical Agunah, a woman whose husband has disappeared and it is not known whether the husband is still alive, a single witness (even a woman or slave, normally invalid as witnesses) may testify that the husband has died, and on that basis the woman may remarry. 

Take a breath. That was a long footnote…and while that is important, you need to understand that there are two kinds of witnesses in Judaism. Testifying—those that witness a crime for instance and attesting, those that witness something like a chance in status—marriage, divorce, conversion, even rabbinic ordination. 

It leaves us with a critical question:  

What, then does it mean to witness something?  

Scientific American did an entire issue on this important topic.  https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/is-seeing-believing/  

We have all seen, yes seen, and probably argued about the blue or gold dress Perhaps you saw a blue dress with black stripes or a white dress with gold stripes.  

https://slate.com/technology/2017/04/heres-why-people-saw-the-dress-differently.html  

For more fun, including the tennis shoe. Is it teal or pink, try this article: https://www.insider.com/best-optical-illusions-photos-2017-10#as-you-probably-know-by-now-the-dress-turned-out-to-b 

It is fascinating to think about how the eyes see something and then the brain processes it. Apparently most people at first saw the dress as white and gold but in reality the dress was really black and blue. Read the article. It is fascinating and fits within our scientists in the synagogue grant. How do we really see what we see? 

It has practical implications for this very Torah portion. We need just courts. One of the most significant books I read in 2020, just before the world shut down, was Just Mercy by Bryan Stevenson about his death penalty work. There is a movie by the same name, which I confess I haven’t seen but should. We know in this country that people who are on death row are disproportionality people of color have not had the same access to quality legal representation. It is part of why my husband’s brothers, both attorneys, have argued death penalty cases at the US Supreme Court. This is a topic with my own commitment to racial justice I too feel passionately about.  

But what does Jewish tradition say? Like everything, the rabbis argue about it. Biblical law allows for the death penalty in 36 offenses. They include crimes like murder and kidnapping, adulty to incest and rape, idolatry and apostasy and, pay attention kids, disrespecting parents.  

And yet, by the time of the Talmud, in Mishnah Sanhedrin 4:5 we learn that rarely was there is a need for “presenting completely accurate testimony in capital cases because for any mistakes or falsehoods could result in the shedding of innocent blood. If any perjury were to cause an execution, ‘the blood of the accused and his unborn offspring stain the perjurer forever.’” This is the root for learning, which I quoted last week in a different context, that “if you save one life it is as though you’ve saved the whole world. If you take a life it is as though you have destroyed the whole world. 

In Talmudic times, capital cases required a 23-judge court, while you only needed 3 for a non-capital case. The US Supreme Court is 9 people (and yes, it includes women!) And coming out of today’s portion, you needed two or more eyewitnesses to testify to the defendant’s guilt. (Sanhedrin 4:1) Judges were urged to rule against conviction and if there was a one-vote majority, you could not convict. So additional judges were added in pairs until the majority ruled against conviction. (Sanhedrin 5:5)  That piece was new learning for me, so if you look at current discussions about “packing the court” I guess as Ecclesiastes says “there is nothing new under the sun.” 

The real argument against the death penalty is here: Said one: The Sanhedrin (Supreme Court) that puts to death one person in seven years is termed tyrannical. Rabbi Eleazar Ben Azariah says, ‘One person in seventy years.’ Rabbi Tarffon and Rabbi Akiba say, ‘If we had been in the Sanhedrin, no one would have ever been put to death.’ Rabban Simeon Ben Gamaliel says, ‘They would have thereby increased the shedders of blood in Israel (Mishnah Makkot 1:10).’” 

Many have argued through the years that the death penalty serves as a deterrent. That argument was made to me recently as it relates to the sentencing in the Poway Chabad shooter, most research has shown that the death penalty does not work as a deterrent. Would that have made a difference with an Hitler? An Eichmann? It is an important question.  

While the last line of this sugiya, argument may be used to support a belief that the death penalty, if carried out judiciously, can be a deterrent, prevailing Jewish thought in every major Jewish movement in the United States has followed the previous opinions, which either oppose the death penalty outright, or allow for it only in the most extreme — once in seventy years — circumstances. Following this line of thinking, the major Jewish movements in the United States all have specific policy supporting either abolition of the death penalty, or a moratorium on its use. 

And here’s why. If you convict on eye witness testimony it may not be accurate. We just proved that back with the white and gold, or wait, blue and black dress. People see what they see.  

In 1992, the Innocence project was founded to use DNA testing to clear wrongly convicted people. As of  August of 2019, they have won 365 exonerations including 20 people on death row.  

This, is part of what we learn out of today’s portion. Tzedek, tzedek tirdof. Justice, justice shall you pursue, by setting up just and merciful courts AND making sure that they are equitable with honest eyewitnesses and the right kind of evidence. And that we should not support the death penalty, not even once in 70 years.  

Va’etchanan 5781: To Hear or Not to Hear

Part of the Scientists and the Synagogue grant:
Va’etchanan: Deuteronomy 3:23-7:11
 

Parsha Summary: 

This is BiG, this is really, really BIG. This Torah portion has the repetition of the 10 Commandments. Well almost, There are a couple of key differences. And then the Sh’ma and V’ahavta. The watchword of our faith. The proclamation that G-d is One. Something we are witness everything we say it. 

This week in our synagogue service, our Bar Mitzvah proclaimed, called out, read the Sh’ma from the scroll itself. What a thrilling moment.  

Hear, O Israel, the Lord is our G-d, the Lord is One.  

Listen up folks. G-d is the only G-d; there is no other. The Israelites have been told that over and over again. All the way back to when G-d was more powerful than Pharaoh. They have seen G-d’s might displayed. The 10 plagues. The Exodus. The parting of the sea. The quaking of Sinai. But this is the new generation.  

Earlier the Israelites had promised that they would do and they would hear. How could they promise to do something before they knew what they were promising? 

The rabbis in the Talmud teach a couple of interesting things about this verse. We are commanded to recited the Sh’ma twice a day. These very words. When we lie down up and when we rise up. The rabbis wonder whether it counts if we read the words out of the scroll. The answer is no. You have to intend to say them, not just read them. They also teach that your ears have to hear what your mouth is saying.  

The Sh’ma is so important that in order to have the right intention, the right kavanah, you need to really hear it. This notion fits within the context of the therapeutic relationship. Psychologists know that by saying something out loud, then it becomes more concrete, more real.  

That raises questions about what happens if someone cannot hear.  We are told we should not put a stumbling block before the blind or curse the deaf.  (Lev. 19) But living with someone who lost his hearing, or most of it, while undergoing chemotherapy, it can be very frustrating.  

Ultimately the question here becomes how do we hear? How do we listen? How do we obey?  Scientifically, here is a great TED Talk to explain it: https://ed.ted.com/lessons/the-science-of-hearing-douglas-l-oliver 

The good news is that we understand so much more about hearing than ever before AND the technology for helping hearing impaired people has improved so much. This is clearly a time to be grateful for the scientists and all their work on this topic.

Table Topics: 

  1. What does it mean to hear? 
  1. Why does the Exodus version of the 10 Commandments say “Remember the Sabbath” and this version say “Keep” (Or guard or watch)? What is the difference? Is there a difference? 
  1. How do you show that you love G-d with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your might/being, all your everything? 
  1. How can G-d command an emotion? 

Labs at Home: 

  1. Materials: 
  • Plastic wrap 
  • Container with wide opening 
  • Uncooked rice (any other small grain will work) 
  • Tin cookie sheet (or other noise maker)  

It’s easy to make a model of the eardrum (also called the “tympanic membrane”) and see how sound travels through the air. Just stretch a piece of plastic wrap over a large bowl or pot (any container with a wide opening will work). Make sure the plastic wrap is stretched tightly over the container. The plastic represents the eardrum. Place about 20-30 grains of uncooked rice on the top of the plastic wrap. Now you need a noise maker. A tin cookie sheet or baking tray works well. Hold the cookie sheet close to the plastic wrap. Hit the cookie sheet to create a “big bang” noise and watch the rice grains jump. 

The “big bang” produces sound waves (changes in air pressure) that cause the plastic sheet to vibrate which causes the rice grains to move. Sound waves vibrate the eardrum in much the same way. 

2. Play the game telephone. Sit in a circle. Someone starts by whispering a sentence to the person next to them. That person whispers what they heard or think they heard to the person next to them and so on until it gets back to the person who started. See how the sentence changed. 

Act of Kindness: 

Help someone go to an audiologist to get a hearing test. See how the Lions Club makes a difference in vision and hearing in your community. 

Song: 

Check out this version of the Sh’ma done in sign language. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MDUU4vy2tmM  

Devarim: Stars and Memory

Some of you may know that Congregation Kneseth Israel was the recipient of a grant from Sinai and Synapses to explore Science in the Synagogue. Our task has been to take each parsha and provide a summary, some table discussion topics and a hands-on lab. Tomorrow, July 20th, our education director, Heather Weiser and I will be speaking about this grant and how it has energized our community at NewCAJE, a professional development conference for Jewish educators. We are one of four organizations in the country in this round of funding.

Let us know how these are meaningful to you. We will keep you posted on how tomorrow’s presentation goes.

Devarim, Deuteronomy 1:1-3:22 

Parsha Summary: 

This week we begin a new book of the Torah, Deuteronomy. In Hebrew it is called Devarim, Words. These are the words…These are Moses’s last words. It is his swan song or his ethical will. It is a retelling of the history of the Israelites. This portion recounts the journey from Egypt to the steppes of Moab, as the Israelites are ready to enter the Promised Land. Moses tells the Israelites that “The LORD your God has multiplied you until you are today as numerous as the stars in the sky.” (Deuteronomy 1:10) This is the promise that was given by G-d to Abraham and it seems to be coming to fruition. Yet, in the original text of G-d speaking to Abraham, G-d promises to make his descendants as numerous as the stars in the sky and the sands of the sea. What happened here? Here is another example: Moses tells the Israelites about how he delegated his authority. He leaves out that he learned this from his father-in-law Jethro. What happened here?  

It seems that memories change over time. Remember that Moses is talking to the next generation. The ones that did not live through the Exodus from Egypt. While we are told that we are each to think of ourselves as though we were freed from Egypt and we each stood at Sinai, our memories of those events are not so realistic, dare I say. There has been much research on the neuroscience of memory in the last 30 years. Northwestern Medicine published an article about how memory is like a game of telephone. Once, when going over my own family history lovingly preserved in a family cookbook, my mother exclaimed, “That simply isn’t true.” My daughter and I looked at each other stunned. We grew up with the story of my grandmother who was Irish. What happened to my mother’s own memory?  

https://news.northwestern.edu/stories/2012/09/your-memory-is-like-the-telephone-game  

Table Topics: 

  1. How does memory change? What does that mean for us? 
  2. Why does Moses change his repetition of the promise to Abraham to become as numerous as the stars in the sky and the sands of the sea? 
  3. Learn the blessing for a shooting star:
    Baruch Atah Adonai, Eloheinu Melech Ha’olam, Oseh Ma’aseh Bereshit, Blessed are You, Lord our G-d, Ruler of the Universe, who does the work of Creation. This blessing also is recited for lightening (the first time during a storm), comet, earthquake, volcano, tornado, hurricane, ocean or mountain. When have you experienced awe? Has it drawn you closer to G-d? 
  4. What values do you want to pass down to your children and grandchildren? What would you say in an ethical will? 

 Labs at Home: 

Go outside late at night and look for a shooting star or more! We are entering the height of the Peresid Meteor Shower. As EarthSjy has said: 

“2021 is a great year for the Perseids! The waxing crescent moon will set at early evening, providing dark skies. Start watching for these meteors in early August. Their numbers will gradually increase. Predicted peak in 2021: the night of August 11-12, but try the nights before and after, too, from late night until dawn. The Perseid meteor shower is perhaps the most beloved meteor shower of the year for the Northern Hemisphere. It’s a rich meteor shower, and it’s steady. These swift and bright meteors radiate from a point in the constellation Perseus the Hero. As with all meteor shower radiant points, you don’t need to know Perseus to watch the shower. Instead, the meteors appear in all parts of the sky. These meteors frequently leave persistent trains. Perseid meteors tend to strengthen in number as late night deepens into midnight. The shower typically produces the most meteors in the wee hours before dawn.” 

And apparently, it has begun earlier than usual on July 14th and continuing through August 24th. So go outside and look. Late at night. As far away from light pollution as possible. We will be trying a corn field or just a soccer field sometime after 10PM and before first light. Remember bug spray. Sit back, look back and count. See how many you can spy in an hour. Then report back. I always find the thrilling to see and I feel deeply connected to my ancestors who must have had the same sense of awe watching in the desert skies.  

Act of Kindness:
Sit down with an older person, a parent or grandparent, and ask them to tell a story of their earlier years. Ask them how that experience made a difference in their lives. Ask them if they know if anyone else tells the story differently, a sibling, a child. See if you can figure out how the differences happened. 

Song:
A while ago there was an animated movie, “An American Tale” about Fievel the Mouse who came to America to find freedom. The hit song from it was “Somewhere Out There.” Somewhere Out There – Linda Ronstadt and James Ingram(with lyrics) 

 

For the Sake of Heaven: Mattot 5781

Hodesh Tov! Shabbat Shalom! 

This Shabbat is both Shabbat and Rosh Hodesh. Rosh Hodesh Av. Rosh Hodesh Menachem Av. It’s formal name that is used when we bless the new month.. Av is the saddest month of the year in the Jewish calendar. And yet the formal name of this month means Comfort of the Father.  

Rosh Hodesh is a half holiday, the start of a new month. Typically, we add Hallel, joyous Psalms to our service which we just did, and there is an extra Torah reading, outlining the extra offerings for Shabbat and Rosh Hodesh that was to be offered in the Holy Temple. Sometimes I talk about how that extra offering is the basis for musaf, the additional service on Shabbat, festivals and Rosh Hodesh. 

The three weeks leading up to Tisha B’av, is a period of mourning in Judaism. In the heat of the summer, people stop doing fun things. For instance, at Jewish camp, there may be instructional swim but no free swim. People stop going to instrumental concerts, wearing leather, eating meat. In the synagogue, there are three weeks of dire warnings in the haftarot: don’t go after strange gods or engage in idol worship or Jerusalem will be destroyed.

Jerusalem was destroyed. Her people exiled. In 586 BCE and again in 70 CE. These are dates that are seared into the Jewish gestalt, into our very kishkes.  

Shabbat interrupts the mourning. And yet, I am intrigued by the formal name of this month: Menachem Av. Where do we find comfort in the midst of tragedy? The question is as current today as it was 2000 years ago.  

People said that they find comfort in their family, in their friends, in nature, in shul. 

I find comfort in community. In people coming together to mourn as we did Thursday night or to celebrate as we do with the Morgans today and the Friedmans in a couple of weeks.  

The explanation of why the Second Temple was destroyed was because of sinat chinam, baseless or senseless hatred. The Israelites just couldn’t get along. While we are familiar with the Pharisees and the Saducees, there were maybe as many as 70 sects warring amongst themselves.  

We have seen lots of baseless hatred in the last few years. Both here and in Israel. There is no question that rising anti-semitism is real—but not just anti-semitism alone. Rising anti-LGBTQ hatred. Rising anti-Asian hate crimes. Rising street violence. The very fabric of this country seems to be unraveling before our eyes. 

In Israel we have seen four elections in two years, continued issues with women who want to daven at the Wall and just last week the Israeli rabbinate refusing to recognize a Jewish congregation in Guatemala and Uganda. Who is a Jew is still debated. Fiercely. 

What is the solution? 

Rav Kook, the first Chief Rabbi in modern day Israel had this to say: 

“If we were destroyed, and the world with us, due to baseless hatred, then we shall rebuild ourselves, and the world with us, with baseless love — ahavat chinam. (Orot HaKodesh vol. III, p. 324) 

Let’s consider this seriously—as the V’ahavata says, in our homes and on our way. Our homes themselves, ever since the destruction of the Temple, are to be seen as mikdash me’at, a little sanctuary, filled with shalom bayit, peace of the house. Our synagogues too, and as much as I talk about how Jews kvetch and argue, those arguments are to be for the sake of heaven. 

Which argument is for the sake of heaven? That too was debated. According to Pirke Avot, the argument between Hillel and Shammai was for the sake of heaven and the argument of Korach, questioning Moses’ authority. (Pirke Avot 5:17) 

Rabbi Menaham Meiri (1249-1306 Catalonia) explains the Pirke Avot. Why were Hillel and Shammai’s arguments for the sake of heaven? Because in their debates, one of them would render a decision and the other would argue against it, out of a desire to discover the truth, not to be cantankerous or to prevail over his fellow.  

Tomorrow there will be a rally in Washington DC: “No Fear: A Rally in Solidarity With the Jewish People.”  According to the Forward, it may be the largest demonstration in the nation’s capital since 1987 when 250,000 people rallied for Soviet Jews. (Simon and I were there!) or 100,000 rallied for Israel in 2002 during the second Intifada. The charge for this rally has been led by Elisha Wiesel, son of Elie Wiesel who was responding the immediate crisis of the recent rocket attacks in Israel and the subsequent blame game. I find it inexplicable how you can fire rockets into Israel and Israel gets blamed. It was a hard month—for friends living in Israel and for frayed relationships here with long standing friends and social justice partners.  

The need for this rally is real—and it will be important to note who will stand with the Jewish people, as we have stood with so many.  

Yet, not all are happy with this event. Many have praised it as a “triumph or diplomacy and Jewish solidarity.”  But some progressive groups have been alienated by the way the event came together, particularly over disputes related to Israel, which was the original rallying cry. 

The debate of who could, and should have a seat at the table—or the right to march in a rally against anti-semitism and for Israel, is a fascinating topic. I am proud that my good friend, another Menachem, Rabbi Menachem Creditor was chosen as a speaker. So was Rabbi David Saperstein who used to lead the Reform Movement’s Religious Action Center until he was chosen by the Obama administration as an ambassador-at-large for International Religious Freedom. They will speak alongside conservative speakers such as alongside a conservative figures such as Meghan McCain and Hussein Aboubakr. Those at the rally will also hear from victims of antisemitism, including Rabbi Sholmo Noginski, who was stabbed in Boston last week. 

But this coalition is fragile. There has been much back and forth about the statement the ADL wanted added that the coalition “will not tolerate expressions of racism, Islamophobia, misogyny, classism, ableism, homophobia, transphobia, xenophobia or any other hate.” Seems pretty basic to me. Similar to every statement on job applications and such. 

But that very language rankled some of the original, more conservative sponsors. 

As quoted in the Forward, “This is a rally about Jew hatred,” said Mort Klein, the ZOA head,  “It’s not that we’re not appalled by every hatred — of course we are — but this really waters down the theme.” 

So the references to specific forms of bigotry were removed Thursday, “leaving a more generic line opposing “all hatred.” Rally spokesman Nathan Miller said the deletion was inadvertent and due to the challenge of managing a web page that was being constantly updated. The full statement was restored Friday morning.” 

How will you decry anti-semitism tomorrow morning? Me, I’ll be running a 5K for pancreatic cancer research to support a friend who works for JUF bringing young teens to Israel. And yes, I’ll be proudly wearing my kippah! 

At CKI we’ve been known to argue too. Which prayer book should we use? How much English or Hebrew? Whether to sit or stand for Kaddish. Which tune for Adon Olam. Even, dare I say it, what kind of toilet paper.  

Perhaps some of those arguments, even well intentioned, are not for the sake of heaven and we should just stop. Just say no. Perhaps we should remember that everyone—and yes I mean everyone—is created in the image of G-d. 

As we approach Tisha B’av, in this year, with these challenges, where do we find comfort and how do we continue to work for ahavat chinam…baseless love. Perhaps it is with Rabbi Menachem Creditor’s own song which we often sing here. 

Olam Chesed Yibaneh.  

We will build this world with love. 

Olam Chesed Yibaneh   

And maybe it is with another classic song sung at many a rally, “Let there be peace on earth and let it begin with me.”  

Let us continue to build this place with love.  

Independence Day and More Deviled Eggs

It’s been a while since I’ve published anything but I was asked to share this Shabbat’s sermon. So here it is and Happy Fourth of July!

I will grant him My pact of friendship—a covenant of shalom.  

Today’s Torah portion has much to say about counting and legacy. Here we have a census after the plague. Almost all of the Israelites who left Egypt have died. Just Caleb and Joshua and Moses are left. The intuitional memory of being a slave is gone. This is a new generation. And there they are…on the steppes of Moab, ready to go into the land of Israel, the land promised to their ancestors, to Abraham, Isaac and Jacob as part of the covenant, a land flowing with milk and honey–arrayed under their tribal flags to be counted. All the men, just the men, 20 years up, those of capable of military service. 

“Among these shall the land be apportioned as shares, according to the listed names.” This is about inheritance. Each tribe according to its size. But the women? Not so much. Until the daughters of Zelophehad: Mahlah, Noa, Hoglah, Milcah, and Tirzah, who had no brothers, argued that their father’s name should not die out, that they too should inherit. They went to Moses, who went to G-d. And G-d agreed with the daughters. They inherited. And we stand on their shoulders. 

Perhaps it should say, I give THEM My pact of friendship—brit shalom, a covenant of peace. For all of us. Even now.  

I stand here this morning, Rabbi Margaret Joy Frisch Klein. I stand on the shoulders of the daughters of Zelophehad and the daughters of the American Revolution.  

It is no secret that the 4th of July is amongst my favorite holidays—and the time where we made a command performance back in Grand Rapids. After all my stepdaughter’s birthday is the 5th, my parents’ birthdays were the 6th and 7th. Those fireworks were for them, right?  It was one big weeklong celebration. A pilgrimage festival with its own traditional rhythm. Flag up at dawn. Blueberry raspberry lemon loaf in the oven. Decorating bikes for the parade.  I spent years decorating bikes for that parade,  Lots of cooking and eating. Menu etched in history. Deviled eggs, guacamole, that festive lemon cake, hot dogs, hamburgers, and something the neighbor always made: ham balls. (They work with ground turkey, too!) One big backyard barbecue. And then, of course, the fireworks. 

I am an American Studies major. I love reading history. But one of the things I the things learned at Tufts and we all need to do is to think critically about history.  

What do we do with our place as Jews in American History? As a student I thrilled to learn of William Bradford’s Hebrew manuscripts. He wrote his marginalia in Hebrew. This country was founded on the idea that a new light would shine over Israel—this was the new Israel and that all men were created equal.And yet, these same Puritans kicked Roger Williams out of Massachusetts because of his religious views.He wasn’t the right kind of Christian.  And yet, the first professor of Hebrew at Harvard College, Judah Monis, we know his name too,  from 1722 to 1760, had to convert to Christianity to keep his professorship. Hayyim Solomon helped bankroll the American Revolution. Jews fought and funded  both sides of the Civil War.  

And yet, In December 1862 Major General Ulysses S. Grant, angry at the illegal trade in smuggled cotton, issued General Order No. 11 expelling Jews from areas under his control in western TennesseeMississippi and Kentucky. Jews appealed to President Abraham Lincoln, who immediately ordered General Grant to rescind the order. What do we do with this history? What do we do with current events where after unprecedented acceptance of Jews at all strata of American life, there is an unprecedented rise in anti-semitism, on the left and the right. Or that a rabbi in Boston, was stabbed 9 times getting into his vehicle on Thursday.  

I go back to one of the treasures of American history and American Jewish history in particular. The letter that George Washington wrote to the Hebrew congregation of Newport, RI in August of 1790. 

I read the whole thing here:
Gentlemen: 

While I received with much satisfaction your address replete with expressions of esteem, I rejoice in the opportunity of assuring you that I shall always retain grateful remembrance of the cordial welcome I experienced on my visit to Newport from all classes of citizens. 

The reflection on the days of difficulty and danger which are past is rendered the more sweet from a consciousness that they are succeeded by days of uncommon prosperity and security. 

If we have wisdom to make the best use of the advantages with which we are now favored, we cannot fail, under the just administration of a good government, to become a great and happy people. 

The citizens of the United States of America have a right to applaud themselves for having given to mankind examples of an enlarged and liberal policy—a policy worthy of imitation. All possess alike liberty of conscience and immunities of citizenship. 

It is now no more that toleration is spoken of as if it were the indulgence of one class of people that another enjoyed the exercise of their inherent natural rights, for, happily, the Government of the United States, which gives to bigotry no sanction, to persecution no assistance, requires only that they who live under its protection should demean themselves as good citizens in giving it on all occasions their effectual support. 

It would be inconsistent with the frankness of my character not to avow that I am pleased with your favorable opinion of my administration and fervent wishes for my felicity. 

May the children of the stock of Abraham who dwell in this land continue to merit and enjoy the good will of the other inhabitants—while every one shall sit in safety under his own vine and fig tree and there shall be none to make him afraid. 

May the father of all mercies scatter light, and not darkness, upon our paths, and make us all in our several vocations useful here, and in His own due time and way everlastingly happy. G. Washington

https://www.tourosynagogue.org/history-learning/gw-letter  

To bigotry no sanction—to persecution no assistance. The words that adorn the entrance to the US Holocaust Museum in Washington. The vision of Isaiah that we often sing here, everyone should sit under their vine and fig tree and none shall make them afraid. The words inscribed on the Liberty Bell—Proclaim Liberty Throughout the Land. Freedom throughout the land. From the Book of Leviticus. These are the legacies we give to this great nation. 

Jews rose to be accepted, slowly over time, in every sector of American society.  There are still people who remember no swimming signs at the quarry, no membership at Elgin Country Club, quotas at major universities and bans on Jews in prestigious hospitals and law firms. Thankfully those battles to be won.  

So I ask again, what is our role in this great nation? 

I want to call to mind several verses: 

Put not your trust in the great, in mortal man who cannot save. Psalm 146:3 

Shemaiah and Abtallion received [the oral tradition] from them. Shemaiah used to say: love work, hate acting the superior, and do not attempt to draw near to the ruling authority.–Pirke Avot 1:10 

Be careful [in your dealings] with the ruling authorities for they do not befriend a person except for their own needs; they seem like friends when it is to their own interest, but they do not stand by a man in the hour of his distress. Pirke Avot 2:3 

Perhaps then, our job as Jews in this society is to hold America to a higher version of itself. To be constant reminders of Jewish values, to welcome the stranger, to love our neighbors as ourselves, to do justly, love mercy and walk humbly with G-d. To be prophets in our own community. To work for peace everywhere. Even Hillel and Shammai seemed to agree on this: 

Hillel and Shammai received [the oral tradition] from them. Hillel used to say: be of the disciples of Aaron, loving peace and pursuing peace, loving mankind and drawing them close to the Torah. Pirke Avot 1:12 

I cherish the 4th of July. My flag is already raised. It is one of the many legacies I pass to my daughter and one day to her daughters. But I do it with my eyes wide open. With an eye toward critical history and a responsibility to work for a better world, a vision I share from Isaiah and George Washington—a world where everyone—and all means all—can sit under their vine and fig tree and none—none shall make them afraid. Then we will all enjoy that covenant of peace promised in today’s portion. In Song of Songs it says, “The banner of love is spread over me.” That’s the flag I want. Love. Olam Chesed Yibeneh. We will build this world with love. And yet…one last quote from Pirke Avot—Ours is not to finish the task, neither are we free to ignore it.  

Deviled Eggs and Transition

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In memory of my mother, Nelle Frisch and in honor of Representative Sean Casten.

I want to tell you a story about deviled eggs. It begins to answer a question that Congressman Sean Casten asked of an interfaith panel last night, the night before the inauguration. How did we get here? How is it possible that the Congress was attacked, some would say stormed, by people who used Christian symbols to make their point. The panel was comprised of three Wheaton College professors, Evangelical Christians, a retired Anglican bishop, a Reform rabbi and an immam. But this is not a joke. 

The esteemed panel was quite literate and articulate and deeply pained. How could these symbols of their faith be so misused? How could Jesus’s name be used in vain? How could the hallowed halls of the US Capitol be desecrated? 

How did we get here? When my mother died (on the night Obama was elected), we wanted to make sure that there were deviled eggs at the shiva. We had them at every Fourth of July parade. They are a staple of midwestern Americana. And they are a symbol of life. It is traditional to eat a hard boiled egg when returning from a Jewish funeral. A hard boiled egg was my father’s last food. We make them for lots of shiva minyans. It just felt right. But we couldn’t reach the woman who usually did them for the 4th of July so we hired my mother’s housekeeper. She refused. She wouldn’t make deviled eggs. But she would make what she would call “Angel Eggs” (same recipe). She did. Then someone else hired her to cater an inauguration party for Obama. They wanted deviled eggs. She refused. She called them Obama eggs because he was the devil.  

Those eggs became a symbol to me. Calling Obama the devil is part of how we got here. But the roots go back much further. When I was a young Hebrew School principal I trained with Facing History and Ourselves, a Holocaust curriculum that works on the idea of being an Upstander not a Bystander, I learned some of the scary history of white supremacy in this country. White supremacy is not new. It is based in a fear that “others” would replace the dominant white, male Christian culture in this country. We have seen that fear in the people who chanted, “Jews will not replace us.” in Charlottesville in 2017.   We have seen that fear in media interviews with people who worry that there will not be jobs for them, that there is no path for the next generation for success. That fear has turned to anger. That anger spilled over.  

With a change in leadership, liminal time, may come more fear and anger. As we discussed last night G-d is a G-d of rachamim, mercy or compassion, and chesed, lovingkindness, G-d is “erech apayim”, slow to anger. And patient. In the story of the Golden Calf, which leads to a recitation of the 13 Attributes of the Divine, the people are scared. Where is their leader? He’s been gone for days, eventually 40 days. They beg Aaron, build us a Golden Calf and he does. In fact, in later Jewish commentators, we are told, “Be like Aaron, loving peace and pursuing it.” (Pirke Avot 1:12) In fact, the full quote: HIllel and Shammai received the oral tradition from them. “Hillel used to used to say: be the disciples of Aaron loving peace and pursing peace.” Hillel and Shammai who argued all the time. Hillel and Shammai who never saw eye to eye in this same verse. Eventually we are told by a bat kol, a divine voice, that both Hillel and Shammai are the words of the living G-d. 

In fact, the roots of that “supremacy” goes all the way back to the earliest days of this country. When Simon and I used to do colonial re-enacting in Chelmsford, not far from where the ‘shot was heard round the world” or where the chests of tea were thrown into the Boston Harbor, we learned that only white, male Christian landowners could vote. We were none of those things.  

We hear frequently that this is a Christian nation, founded on Christian values. If you studied Native American history that pre-dates the United States, you’d be convinced. If you read the Puritan writings, which I have extensively, including the Hebrew marginalia in Governor William Bradford’s own Bible, which I held in my own hands, you might conclude it was. If you read why Roger Williams was kicked out of Massachusetts Bay Colony and then founded Rhode Island, you might think we were not so welcoming. 

The history after the Civil War is not a pretty part of our history. The arguments that southern land owners could have slaves because there were Israelite slaves in the Bible ring hollow. The use of the Confederate battle flag continues to sow hatredSome of that is crumbling. The New Jim Crow and how we handle mass incarceration, and police brutality has led to other real fear and anger. The book Caste does a good job of outlining painful history 

Last night I was supposed to be at a congregational book group, discussing another book, The Jews Should Keep Quiet, outlining a painful history between Rabbi Stephen Wise and President Franklin D. Roosevelt. As the fate of the Jewish community was on the line, over and over again, Wise urged the Jewish community to remain silent, to not rock the boat. Roosevelt would make promises but did little action.  That repeated inaction is directly responsible for the murder of many Jews in Europe. That inaction leads us again to this moment. 

Rereading Letter from a Birmingham Jail for Martin Luther King Day, I am painfully aware of his indictment of the white clergy friends. “I felt that white ministers, priests and rabbis of the South would be some of our strongest allies. Insteadsome have been outright opponents, refusing to understand the freedom movement and misrepresenting its leaders; all too many others have been more cautious than courageous and have remained silent behind the anesthetizing security of stained glass windows. 

There is that silence again. Yet, like as Mordecai told Esther, “For if you remain silent at this time, relief and deliverance for the Jews will arise from another place, but you and your father’s family will perish. And who knows but that you have come to your royal position for such a time as this?” (Esther 4:14) Perhaps we are all at this very moment for such a time as this. It was that very sentence that I was thinking about when I was in Washington DC with American Jewish World Service to lobby for IVAWA, the International Violence Against Women Act. I looked up and saw the Capitol and knew just how far I had come as an American, as a Jew, a woman and a rabbi, speaking truth to power. It is a unique privileged we have in this country and one we must use in order to reclaim our own voice and to make the halls of Congress sacred again.  

After Charlottesville and then again after the massacre in Pittsburgh at the Tree of Life Synagogue, I was part of organizing events in Elgin. There were many people who spoke. One of the most powerful was Rev. Jeff Mikyska, who spoke as a white Christian male. He expressed his righteous indignation. His anger. He urged us to continue to speak out. To have our actions match our words. To root out racism and anti-semitism wherever they are found. I applaud Representative Casten and the members of last night’s panel for really wrestling this most important topic.  

And yet…the Statue of Liberty still stands in New York Harbor, its base inscribed with a poem written by an American Jewish woman, Emma LazarusI grew up believing I belonged in America. I was part of the American dream, founded on democracy. I was a Girl Scout during the US Bicentennial and a girl from Grand Rapids when President Ford was the sitting president. If the president came to town and the Girl Scout Council needed diversity, it was I.  

And yet…the US Congress and our democracy still stands. It is our sacred duty to guard it. It is our sacred duty to reclaim our sacred symbols. It is our job to speak out…wherever and whenever injustice rises.  When the leadership passed from Moses to Joshua, both G-d and Moses told Joshua, “chazak v’emetzBe strong and of good courage. Be strong and resolute.” This is a good message in our liminal time. I’m in. Hineini. Here I am.  

But first, pass me the deviled eggs.  

Earlier this week, I wrote this: I was asked to write a poem/prayer for the inauguration. Jews have been praying for their country since Jeremiah’s day. Every week we pray for our country. Here is mine tonight:

Every four years
We pray
And we vote.
We vote
And we pray.
Every four years
Before the cherry blossoms emerge
We pause
We reflect
We stand
We hope
We hope that
America can be
A light to the nations
A light on the hill
The city on the hill
A shining city
That John Winthrop preached about
That Kennedy dreamed about
And Reagan spoke about
Not black or white
Rich or poor
Jew or Christian
And not Hindu, Muslim or Buddhist either
Not Liberal or Conservative
Democrat or Republican.
Simply this:
American
Once again a force for good
Throughout our cities
Our nation
And throughout the world
Doing justly
Loving mercy
Walking humbly
Feeding the hungry
Housing the homeless
Curing the sick
Welcoming the downtrodden
Being all that we can be
All that we hoped for
One nation, under G-d
Indivisible
With liberty and justice for all.
All means all.
Beginning again.
Today.
We voted
Now we pray.
Tomorrow, then,
Tomorrow we do.

Kindness or Civil Disobedience: Sh’mot 5781

Hinini, here I am. Fully present. And yet, like Moses I have no words to share with you this morning. Where is Aaron, the peacemaker to speak for me? Pirke Avot teaches that we should be like the disciples of Aaron, loving peace and pursing peace. And yet, when Aaron’s own sons were killed, he remained silent. I cannot remain silent. May the words of my mouth (as imperfect as they are) and the meditations of my heart be acceptable to You.

Many of us watched in horror as events unfolded in Washington on Wednesday. The Capitol, the hallowed grounds of our legislature, our very democracy, was breached. I have stood in that rotunda, awestruck. It is American holy ground, just as we read about Moses standing on holy ground in today’s portion. I cannot imagine being a civil servant, an elected official or even the esteemed Capitol Police and Secret Service. They must have been terrified. For their very lives.

Having lived in Israel, the images were too reminiscent of terror I had seen first hand, and second hand and I wanted to look away. I wanted to dive under the covers and not come up for air. I knew that was not an option. I knew that history was being made, for better or worse, and only history will be able to decide which. So, as painful as it was, I knew I must watch. This was a moment, like the assignation of Kennedy or 9/11 that cannot be ignored. And my cell phone was beginning to light up. Constantly. Text messages, emails, phone calls, everybody was watching. Some were angry. Some were fearful. And just wanted my comfort. Please tell me this is all going to be OK. That’s what leaders do. Offer comfort and reassurance. Sadly, I cannot do that. Some of that is for other leaders to do. However, what I can do is teach Torah. And so that is what we are going to do this morning.

Let’s look at this morning’s portion. It is one of the most important portions in the Torah. It begins by paralleling the beginning of Genesis in some important ways we looked at during Torah Study this week and it begins to birth a nation. I own a book called “The Birth of Nation”, by Arthur Schlesinger about the days before American Independence. I can tell you, as an American Studies major, there are many lenses to tell the story of the founding of the United States, just like there are many lenses through which to study Torah.

One of my professors, Rabbi Dr. Nehemia Polen, likened the Book of Leviticus to a reset button. It is.a recipe of how to draw close to G-d. Any many of the same elements exist in the Book of Exodus as well. He would explain ritual this way. The Torah commands sacrifices, one in the morning and one in the evening as a way to draw close. He likens it to the prescription meds some of us take, one in the morning and one at night. He then would talk about one of the most important moments after 9/11. The Wall Street Journal managed to get out a morning edition. It was their ritual. When all the world was crumbling, it was their back to work. Not a whole lot different than what we saw Congress do on Wednesday night. Back to work. To do the people’s business in those hallowed halls.

We Jews are good at various lenses. The whole Talmud is a collection of different opinions about what the Torah says. The rabbis argue back and forth and that is encouraged. What isn’t encouraged is violence.

At the beginning of the parsha, a new pharaoh arose in Egypt who knew not Joseph. It had been some 400 years. Can we look at this portion through Pharaoh’s eyes? Perhaps. It seems he was afraid that the Israelites would outnumber the Egyptians, that they might unite with the Egyptian enemies to destroy Egypt, that there might not be enough food to go around. Pretty frightening. So he orders that all the baby boys be killed. Also pretty frightening. Imagine being a mother about to give birth! Shifrah and Puah, two midwives, stand up and prevent that from happening. They defied a direct order. Remember their names. Shifrah and Puah. They played what we might consider a bit part but they helped birth a nation. Shifrah and Puah.

These midwives are described in the Torah as yorah Elohim – women who fear god. The Torah tells us that people who fear God are those who uphold and take seriously ethical, moral behavior. According to the great Biblical scholar Dr. Nachum Sarna, “Their defiance of tyranny constitutes history’s first recorded act of civil disobedience in defense of a moral imperative.”

Henry David Thoreau argued passionately for civil disobedience in his essay by the same name. He felt that there were times that government did more harm than good, and that included democracies. His short essay is often published together with Dr. Martin Luther King’s essay, Letter from a Birmingham Jail. However, while civil disobedience may be called for, in both King’s case and Thoreau’s case, it involved non-violent protests. Things like not paying your taxes.

Rabbi Ari Hart, in one of the most masterful sermons I read this week, (and this week I read and heard lots and lots of sermons!) compares the actions of Shifrah and Puah to the actions of the senate aides who did not turn aside. They saw the ballot boxes holding the electoral college returns. They scooped up them up and calmly ushered them and themselves out the Senate chambers. I am not sure I would have had that much foresight or courage. Four congressional staff members saw the ballot boxes, and the keys to our democracy.

Later in the portion, Moses, himself looks aside:

“Some time after that, when Moses had grown up, he went out to his kinsfolk and witnessed their labors. He saw an Egyptian beating a Hebrew, one of his kinsmen. He turned this way and that and, seeing no one about, he struck down the Egyptian and hid him in the sand.”

Why does he choose to act then? When he knows no one is watching—or when he knows he is the only one present who can act? How we look at this story is about how we perceive truth.

There was another time I wanted to turn aside. When I was president of the Greater Lowell Leadership Alliance, I had to make a statement to the press about the movie, The Passion of the Christ, a very bloody, awful Mel Gibson movie with some anti-semetic tropes. My friend, the Rev Larry Zimmerman and I went together on tickets provided by the Catholic Archdiocese of Boston. Afterwards, we sat in silence in his van for a long time. For like a half an hour. Imagine me quiet for a half an hour! Finally he broke the silence. “I understand the Holocaust. It was a mob mentality. Once the mob started it was impossible to stop. Sadly.” The people that watched Jesus and the thieves being taken to his death, not only looked aside, they joined in on egging it on. It was impossible to stop. The lies that the leaders had portrayed over and over again had contributed to what had happened. The Holocaust, as Rev Zimmerman had suggested, had similar roots. Lies, propaganda, fear all contributed to what became Kristalnacht and then even worse. I had a different take. It was the best argument against capital punishment I had ever seen. (But that is a sermon for another time!)

Still later, Moses sees a burning bush, a bush that is unconsumed. And he realizes that this is a special moment, a holy moment. This time, he turns aside to look. He doesn’t ignore it. The midrash tells us that other people walked by the bush and didn’t act. He takes off his shoes. He knows he is standing on holy ground. On Wednesday night, between congressional votes, a congressman was on his hands and knees cleaning the floor of the rotunda. Why? Because it is holy ground.

The midrash teaches: “Why did the Holy One see fit to speak to Moses from within a thorn-bush? If it had been a carob tree or a sycamore tree, would you not have asked the same question. However, to send you away you without any answer is not possible, [so] why from within a thorn-bush? To teach you that there is no empty place devoid of the Shechinah, not even a [lowly] thorn-bush.”

Moses is a reluctant leader. He doesn’t want to do this, go back to Egypt and speak truth to power. He needs reassurance that he is not alone. So, G-d provides him with Aaron to be his mouthpiece and assures him that G-d himself will go with him. G-d provides Moses with G-d’s own name. “Eyeh asher eyeh”—very difficult to translate, something like “I will be what I will be.” G-d is all encompassing and forward thinking. G-d is everything.

Moses is a humble leader. Like the lowly bush, we are told over and over again, he is humble.

The parsha demands an answer. G-d calls to Moses, “Moses, Moses” and he answers “Hineini, I am here.” What does it mean to answer Hineini, to be fully present. To be able to see the burning bush. To feel with such passion that you feel called to do something. Midrash actually draws a linguistic connection between the “flame (lavah) of fire” of the burning bush and a heart (lev) of fire. Being called to do something is to have passion about it. To know that you cannot turn aside. It is something you must do. You must have heart.

Frederick Buechner teaches that “Vocation is the place where our deep gladness meets the world’s deep need.” The world needs much these days. What then, are you called on to do? Where does your deep gladness meet the world’s greatest needs? That then is how you answer Hineini with your lives. That’s where you will find meaning. Whether you are Shiprah and Puah or four congregational staffers or “just” you. Each of us has a unique role to fill. Each of us is called to do something.

Moses answers Hineini. I am here. He is humble. He is reluctant. He doesn’t go it alone. And he doesn’t do it with violence. Don’t turn aside. Look into the fire. Find the fire. We will continue to look at Moses’s leadership over the next few weeks as the story continues to unfold. Because after all at the end of Deuteronomy, just before Moses dies, we are told that never again did there arise a leader like Moses. But each of us is a little like Moses. If we would be silent long enough to listen.

Cleanse our hearts: A Poem Prayer
In the middle of the night
Between votes
A lone congressman
Was on his hand and knees
Cleaning the rotunda.

What can we clean?

The words of my mouth
And the meditations of my heart.

Yet, my words fail.
When Dinah was attacked,
Jacob was silent.
When Aaron’s sons were killed
Aaron remained silent.
 
I cannot remain silent.
 
What must we clean?
Our prayers say
Cleanse our hearts
That we may serve You
In truth.

Help us to return to You.
Help us to remember
That
All are created in Your image
That
We must love our neighbors
As ourselves,
That
Violence is never the answer.

Help us to answer Your call
Just like to Moses
Hineini
Here am I

Fully present
Present
As I find again
Holy, sacred ground
Hallowed halls.
Help us to clean our hearts.

The Chesed, Lovingkindness of Abraham

Note: This is the sermon I gave this week. Before the election was called. Which happened during services this week. I chose not to announce it because it could wait. Nonetheless I will never forget the moment I heard.

Chesed of Abraham

This week is big. Not for those reasons. That’s a discussion for another time. We learn a lot about Abraham and our need to show to chesed to everyone. Imagine sitting in the heat of the day and you just had your brit milah—your circumcision. Which you did to yourself. You hurt. You are tired. And no less than G-d, the Healer, G-d your Friend, appears, shows up to comfort you in your pain. And then you raise your eyes and three anashim, men appear, Or maybe they are angels, or beings. You race to take care of them. Your tent is open to all four sides exactly so you can welcome guests from wherever they appear. Two big values, Jewish values—visiting the sick, bikkur holim and chanasat orchim, welcoming guests. Each made harder but not impossible by COVID-19. Nonetheless they are critically important to creating the kind of society we want to be a part of. Friday night we brainstormed ways to keep connected.

The third mitzvah, and what sets Abraham apart from Noah, is he argues with G-d. Abraham was righteous, because he argued on behalf of Sodom and Gomorrah. If there were just 10 righteous people, Sodom and Gomorrah would not be destroyed. From this we learn that 10 people is the necessary number, the bare minimum to have a community. Last night we talked about why 10.

Today, I want to talk about what a community is. We know that we need a minyan to say Kaddish or Barechu or to read Torah. We know that the nature of community is changing. Look at your faces…we are gathered together electronically. We are a community. We count this as a minyan. Even a few years ago that might not have happened. So what is it that we want from a community. In starting a new Jewish community out on the prairie for example, you need three things: a cemetery, a school and a mikveh. You need to take care of the widow, the orphan, the sojourner. You need to teach. You need to come together to daven, to pray, to celebrate a marriage or a birth. You need to bury the dead and comfort the bereaved.

Let’s look at Abraham’s argument.

Abraham demands, calls upon G-d to be just. “Shall not the Judge of all the earth deal justly?” (Gen.18:25) Doing justly is being righteous. It is an act of kindness, chesed. These are often linked in our tradition. G-d is both full of lovingkindness and just.

So this argument with G-d is set in that context. And it is why Abraham is called a righteous person contrasted with Noah who was a righteous person in his generation. Abraham dares to argue with G-d. Abraham dares to stand up. He is not a bystander. Last week we looked at another instance of Abraham not standing idly by. He rescued his nephew Lot. Here he is arguing not just for Lot but for the whole community. Later we are told in Leviticus, “Do not stand idly by while your neighbor bleeds.” So part of being in community is standing up for one another—even if that means arguing with G-d.

As Von Rad said, “The issue here is not one of mere numbers, but as presented, it is a story about who God will be. This strikes the modern ear as presumptuous, but the text leads us in this direction. Many have seen in this text an important principle taking shape: will the righteous be able to act in behalf of the guilty? “Should not a small minority of guiltless men be so important before God that this minority should cause a reprieve for the whole community?” (http://www.crivoice.org/gen18and22.htm#-11-)

Did you know that G-d prays? What does G-d pray? That G-d compassion with overrule G-d’s justice. That G-d’s house will be a house of prayer for all people. Here is the story in the Talmud:

Yochanan says in the name of R. Yosi:
How do we know that the Holy One, blessed be He, says prayers?
Because it says: ‘Even them will I bring to My holy mountain and make them joyful in My house of prayer’ (Isaiah 56:7).

It is not said, ‘their prayer’, but ‘My prayer’; hence we learn that the Holy Blessed One, says prayers.

What does G-d pray? R. Zutra b. Tobi said in the name of Rav:

‘May it be My will that My mercy, my compassion may suppress My anger, and that My mercy may prevail over My [other] attributes, so that I may deal with My children in the attribute of mercy and, on their behalf, stop short of the limit of strict justice.’ (Berachot 7a)

This phrase from Isaiah is over the doors of many synagogues, including the one that Simon grew up in, Chicago Sinai. May this house be a house of prayer for all peoples. May it be true of this house too. That too is an act of kindness.

Later in this parsha, it seems that Lot offers up his daughters, to spare the guests in his house. And Abraham, the righteous one, who just argued to spare Sodom and Gomorrah, offers up Sarah to Abimelech. This chapter maybe the original #MeToo Movement. But in fact, G-d rescues Lot’s daughters. G-d rescues Sarah. Let’s also not overlook Abimelech. Abimelech is outraged that Abraham has tricked him into “taking” Sarah. This is a great moment for the universalism that is Judaism. And the first mention of “to pray”, l’hitpaleil, a reflexive verb is Abraham praying for Abimelech. And Abimelech is healed, by G-d, the Healer. So our parsha has come full circle.

We know that to be a mensch, to exhibit acts of love and kindness, to do justly means to visit the sick, welcome guests, not stand idly by and yes, even argue with G-d. Those are the messages of kindness in this week’s parsha. May we have the courage to do them here today.

We have spoken about Aleinu calling for l’takein olam b’malchut shadai, a repair of the world. On that day, the Lord will be one and G-d’s name will be One. Here is Judy Chicago’s version in her The Merger Poem:

And then all that has divided us will merge
And then compassion will be wedded to power
And then softness will come to a world that is harsh and unkind

And then both men and women will be gentle
And then both women and men will be strong
And then no person will be subject to another’s will

And then all will be rich and free and varied
And then the greed of some will give way to the needs of many

And then all will share equally in the Earth’s abundance

And then all will care for the sick and the weak and the old

And then all will nourish the young
And then all will cherish life’s creatures

And then everywhere will be called Eden once again

Copyright Judy Chicago, 1979.

Here is my poem that I wrote to my congregation expressing a similar thing that I read before Kaddish:

Ours is not to finish the task
The election was never the task.

The task is to create a society
Where everyone is free
Where everyone is recognized
Created in the image of G-d
Where we love G-d
Where we support the widow
Take care of the orphan
Love the stranger

Where we love our neighbors as ourselves.
Where we take care of one another.

But this is hard.
People want to take care of themselves.
Their own family
Their own needs
The physical ones and the spiritual ones.

Abram went on a journey
He left his country
The land of his birth
His parents’ home
To a land that he didn’t know.
Full of uncertainty.
Taking care of his needs
Yet he raced to welcome guests.
He fed them.
He bathed them.
He refreshed their souls.

Mirroring Abram,
Our ancestors went on a journey
To a land, this land, that they didn’t know
Filled with uncertainty
To be.a light on the hill
To create a society
Where they were free
To love G-d
As they saw fit.
To escape persecution,
Whether the Puritans
Or those chased out
Of Eastern Europe, Western Europe
The Mediterranean Basin
The whole world
To come here.
To care for themselves
And for one another
Not one or the other.
Both.

Yet it turns out.
Caring is hard.
Kindness is hard.
Love is hard.

We forget
We revert to old patterns
We put our individualism
Ahead of the common good.

It is time to remember.
Love yourself.
Love your neighbor.
Love the widow, the orphan the stranger.
Do justice, love mercy and walk humbly with G-d.

Ours is not to finish the task
Neither are we free to ignore it.